This is how I show my age at 57

This post is sponsored by Hair Biology and all opinions are my own

When my father was a child, he answered the door while my grandmother was in the kitchen, cooking. He then yelled out to my grandmother: “Mooooom, there’s an old lady at the door.”

My grandmother, who was in her late 20’s, hurried out and was met by a 16-year old girl.

Lorraine C. Ladish in easy pose
Photo: Phillippe Diederich

I still laugh when I remember my late grandmother telling me that story. She passed almost three years ago at nearly 102, and oh my, her memory and mental agility when she turned 100 was better than mine.

She taught me that age is definitely relative.

At 57, I’m a dinosaur to a 20-year old, but I’m just a kid to a 90-year old. It’s all about perspective. 

At my age, I don’t feel that my best days are over. But I also don’t feel that being 57 is better than being 27. It’s just different.

I don’t feel invisible, and I don’t mean it in the way of turning heads as I walk down the street.

I mean that I still feel relevant. I feel seen. I feel heard. I’m definitely more confident than when I was younger.

Lorraine C. Ladish doing an arm balance
Photo: Phillippe Diederich

I think that is the result of being engaged in meaningful work, mingling with people of all ages and perhaps, being the mother of young children (I had my first at 37 and the second, at 40), and still setting goals and making plans to achieve them.

I don’t even feel I’ve peaked yet. Maybe I never will. And that’s probably a good thing.

There is a lot about aging that is out of our control. I personally did not enjoy menopause, I don’t like aches and pains. If I said I absolutely love every wrinkle and my sagging skin I’d be lying.

However, that doesn’t mean that I don’t accept, enjoy and embrace my age. I do. A lot.

Lorraine C. Ladish w Hair Biology Serum
Photo: Phillippe Diederich

I’ve lost three good friends to cancer who will not get to know what it’s like to be old. And for them I do what they can no longer do because I know that’s what they’d want: I live like I’m ageless.

By this I mean that I don’t use my age as an excuse.

Last year I trained for my 57th birthday photoshoot. My goal was to achieve a freestanding handstand by the age of 60. But I did it at 56. That was my birthday picture.

Lorraine C. Ladish doing a handstand
Photo by Phillippe Diederich

That’s the part about aging that is within my control. How I approach it.

I don’t think there is one way to age. Want to dye your hair? Dye it! Want to ditch the dye? Ditch it! Prefer to retire and chill? Fine! Are you more like me and see yourself working until the day you die? Do that! 

My message is that aging is inevitable but how you deal with it is up to you.

As far as stereotypes go, I like to defy them, and so I keep my hair long despite being closer to 60 than to 50. 

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I’m really grateful for my partnership with Hair Biology, that not only takes care of my tresses, but also helps me amplify the message that, as we age, we are indeed Bolder, not Older.

I have been using their products for almost a year now, and have loved that they designed their product lineup to have solutions for these common signs of aging hair, so that you can wear your hair however YOU want, no matter your age.

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How are you showing the confidence brought to you by age in a way that matters to you?

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Lorraine C. Ladish

Bilingual and bicultural Spanish-American editor, writer, speaker, influencer, yoga teacher (RYT500) wife and mom. Founder of Viva Fifty! Published author of 18 books. Her most recent book Your Best Age was released by HarperCollins in September of 2017.

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