Authentic happiness is not linked to an activity, it is a state of being. – Matthiew Ricard
Can you be happy, or at least joyful, no matter what is going on in your life? I believe you can. And no, I certainly don’t feel joyous all of the time. Yes, I’ve had my share of challenges, as most people do. However, during one of the toughest times in my life, when I woke up to being the single, broke and unemployed mami to two girls, then 4 and 7, I managed to find ways to lift my spirits—even if it was barely enough to get me through the day. Over time, these practices have helped me overcome depression and defeatist thoughts and have kept me going, despite the inevitable hurdles we all face at certain times.
Shared from my own experience and that of other positive women I know, here are seven habits of happy women.
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1. Happy women find “me time” regularly, no matter what. It doesn´t have to be a whole lot of time, especially if you have young kids. It can be 10 minutes for a coffee alone before the family wakes up, 15 minutes taking a bubble bath, five minutes lying on your bed with cucumber slices over your eyes. The point is carving out small pockets of time where it’s all about you and your thoughts and feelings. It usually takes some effort to create these moments, but if you do it regularly, you won’t find yourself running on empty all the time.
2. Happy women have a creative outlet. Whether it’s knitting, drawing, crafting, writing or baking, when you’re nurturing your creative side, you tend to feel better about yourself and about life. Regularly engaging in an activity that allows you to feel in-the-flow is relaxing and uplifting. If you’re not quite sure of what your creative inclinations are, try several and then stick with the one that you most enjoy.
3. Happy women learn from their mistakes. Instead of beating ourselves up over every single thing we ever did wrong and feel bitter about, learning from our mistakes helps us raise our self-esteem and advance our personal growth. Not only that, we’ll also be modeling a positive attitude for our children. It will help them understand that oftentimes making mistakes is a surefire way of learning.
4. Happy women practice gratitude. This helped me so much at a very difficult point in my life that I’m taking it up again. An easy but effective way to remind ourselves of the things in life we can be grateful for is to write them down every day, in the morning and at night. Write down three things that make you feel grateful. When life is not going as expected, focusing on the small things can help you make it through the day. A stranger’s kindness, your baby’s smile, a call from a friend … nothing is too small.
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